The Miracle Drug Prescription

Is Miracle Drug Therapy for You?

Miracle Drug Therapy is a free service of Breakthru Counseling Care designed to assist those contemplating counseling or engaged in it in order to better equip them to move forward to achieve their full personal/professional potential and success. This is a free resource self-help website for everyone.

This is not an alternative to face-to-face counseling/or medical care.
Miracle Drug Therapy Website is dynamic and progressive under ongoing professional supervision and enrichment. It integrates Therapy, Music and Spirituality. It is primarily indicated to:

• Those who want to explore their “existential pain” in the context of relationships (past and present).

• The Pain Spectrum begins with lack of affection, indifference, and may reach the high intensity of abandonment and rejection.

• The experience of abandonment is a key factor in one’s inability to love.

• Those willing to search for deeper emotional levels will be rewarded with a deeper ability to love and to be loved.

• Those who are open to embrace the spiritual dimension of their being will identify their true identities. This discovery will result in a psycho-spiritual awakening in which the bold and audacious eagle spirit replaces the limited and insecure chicken identity.

Miracle Drug Therapy is driven by a central goal: Moving one’s imagination from dark expectations for the future to the experience of Celebration in the Here and Now. The Here and Now Experiences shapes our Future. This motion is facilitated by the music/lyrics of U2 and the transformative power of its message, Emotionally Focused Therapy insights and spiritual perspectives from The Message by Eugene Peterson.

This central goal can be expanded in more detail:

Goals of Miracle Drug Therapy and EFT

• To expand and re-organize key emotional responses–the music of the attachment dance. The focus of EFT is on relationship to people, Miracle Drug Therapy will engage you in your attachment to places, moments, and “distant” people (dead and alive)

• To create a shift in partner’s interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction. This shift will include your positions on social justice, global warming, poverty, war, health care and artistic expressions through books, music, painting and photography.

• To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners. In some instances personal security supersede relationships. Infectious people and work and religious environments must be avoided for personal wholeness and survival.

• Safety through Mutual Accessibility & Responsiveness and Freedom to express and honor your desires, beliefs, and convictions.

• Therapy is a safe haven, a secure base.

At the top of your personal world protected by a Secure Base we may view old pathologies though new lenses:
 
The pattern of behaving or feeling as if we were responsible for the problems of the world needs to be replaced by a personal sense of role and calling for the renewal and nurture of what Bono calls: The American Idea. 

Stress related heart pounds and difficulty breathing might indicate a sense of powerlessness and lack of emotional and mental liberation.

Sometimes, this sense of imprisonment is self-imposed or other imposed through unhealthy responses to oppressive family, religious, and political systems.

This sense of imprisonment needs to be fully acknowledged and validated as a key to the door of freedom and healing air.

The avoidance of people, activities, or places for no apparent reason, may have a reason: we might see others in high places in opposition to our devaluated view of ourselves. We must increase in our self-worth so they can decrease before our distorted sight.

Having difficulty remembering important chapters of one’s personal story may be overcome through the harmonious writing of new chapters that creates meaning and purpose to the whole script of our lives.
   
Loss of interest in things previously considered important might indicate the need of growth and our inner search for higher levels of satisfaction and contentment.
   
Feeling emotionally numb and finding hard to have loving feelings toward those who are close to us may require a review of past disappointments and our present expectations for relational well-being.
   
We must be reminded that as we move through life’s stages, new tasks, challenges and dilemmas are presented before us and our response to them will shape our new identity and dreams. Failure in these adjustments generates pain and anxiety.

More often than admitted the intimate alliance of body-mind and soul determine our physical and spiritual health. Consider these core emotions and responses:

• Anger: sense of powerlessness - defensiveness
• Sadness: need of support and affirmation - withdraw
• Excitement: experience of care – sense of hope
• Shame: emotional bleeding – hiding and avoidance
• Fear: feelings of uncertainty - freeze, flee, give-up
• Joy: experience of freedom – engagement & communication
  

These core emotions may assist in one’s search for answers to the meaning of present pain in the scenario of a life thirsty for meaning, joy and the sensation of being somebody special. Before we meet these needs we need to find answers to our personal “cry” for living.

Miracle Drug Therapy Basic Questions

• What is my most pressing need at this moment?
• What next step direction should I take?
• What are my specific, achievable, and measurable goals?
• What life priorities should I pursue?
  

The star of love guides our search for direction. Miracle Drug Therapy open the eyes of the heart to the skies where stars of diamonds are dancing in a dream world as they wait for each one of us to enjoy the dance through the experience of love and romance.

Romance is Friendship on Fire

• A fire bond is persistent, not transitory.
• A fire bond involves a particular person who is not interchangeable with anyone else.
• A Fire bond involves a relationship that is emotionally significant.
• The individual wishes to maintain proximity or contact with the person with whom he or she has romantic feelings. 
• The individual feels sadness or distress at involuntary separation from the person.
  

A true attachment fire bond, however, has an additional criterion: the person seeks security and comfort in the relationship.

Miracle Drug Therapy Roadmap to Love

• Keeping contact as an alternative to Isolation.
• Meeting needs for Connection, Comfort, and Care.
• Accessibility & Responsiveness.
• Exploring Attachment Styles.
• Sharing a Global Mission rooted in Compassion & Justice.
  

This attachment dance is in opposition to rigidity and control. Love and Growth demand an environment of freedom to .

• Rigid interactions create emotional bondage and dependency.
• Rigid emotional states create rigid interactions and undue self-control and control of others.  
• Power Control is the absence of Freedom.
  

Change involves new relationship events and power to become your true Self. Change through Connection requires the mastery of emotional language since:

        1. Emotion is the agent of change
        2. Emotions move interactions and create meaning
        3. Emotions define responses, needs and desires
        4. Emotions color events
        5. Primary emotions “reveals” the real meaning of words
        6. Secondary emotions are the tip of the soul iceberg
        7. You are the combination of your thoughts, emotions, and relationships
        8. You can become a new person with new dreams and a new mission.

BBC Emotional Communication

By observing thousands of examples related to the attachment bond, we have discovered that the most important non-verbal cues are:

Eye contact – the visual sense is dominant for most people and therefore especially important in nonverbal communication. Is this source of contact missing, too intense or just right?

Facial expression – universal facial expressions signify anger, fear, sadness, joy and disgust. What is the face you show? Is it mask-like and unexpressive, or emotionally present and filled with interest?

Tone of voice – the sound of the voice conveys moment to moment emotional experience. What is the resonant sound of your voice? Does your voice project warmth, confidence and delight or is it strained and blocked?

Posture – the pose, stance and bearing described by the way you sit, slouch, stand, lean, bend, hold and move your bodies in space. Does your body look stiff and immobile or relaxed? Are shoulders tense and raised or slightly sloped Is your abdomen tight or is there a little roundness to your bellies that indicates your breathing is relaxed?

Touch – finger pressure, grip and hugs that feel good to you and feel good to the other person. What “feels good” is relative; some prefer strong pressure, others light pressure. Do you know the difference between what you like and what the other person likes?

Intensity – a reflection of the amount of energy you project. Are you flat or so cool you seem disinterested, or are you over the top and melodramatic? Again, this has as much to do with what feels good to the other person as what you personally prefer.

Timing and pace – a reflection of the ability to be a good listener and communicate interest and involvement. What happens when someone you care about makes an important statement? Does a response – not necessarily verbal – come too quickly or too slowly? Is there an easy flow of information back and forth?

Sounds that convey understanding – sounds such as “ahhh, ummm, ohhh,” uttered with congruent eye and facial gestures, communicate understanding and emotional connection. More than words, these sounds are the language of interest, understanding and compassion. Do you indicate with sincere utterances that you are attending to the other person?

Expected Miracle Drug Effects

As you experience a sense of secure base with self and others you may expect becoming:

• More Assertive, Coherent, Positive and Articulated
• Experience new Emotions, Events and Dreams
• Articulation of Emotional Needs and Deep Longings
• Less Anxious and Discouraged with better Emotional Regulation manifested in Decision-Making and a Bold Vision for Life.
• More Flexibility, Openness and Autonomy
• Courage to Question political and religious dogma
• More Toleration of Ambiguity and Uncertainty
• Address Impasses and Injuries (individual and collective)
• Promote Acceptance of Self, Others and Minorities
• Feeling more Lovable and Free from the Fear of Men
• High Ability to Think, Feel and Relate in Freedom
  

Summary:

Miracle Drug integrates Emotionally Focused Therapy Principles with U2 Compositions and Spiritual Perspectives.
Spiritual Perspectives are primarily based on Eugene Peterson’s The Message for its art, poetry, and contemporary language.

EFT is based on tested, clear, explicit conceptualizations of relationship distress and adult love. There is healing power in the touch of Love. Touch Heals, Hurt Steals (Bono)

We expect our visitor to expect to be surprised by joy and to imagine a new reality for their lives free from internal and external imprisonments.

We will challenge our clients to question their religious traditions, values and life-views.

Sharing Alone Is Not the Answer

Sharing Problems Boosts Girls’ Anxiety

Girls Who Bond by Complaining to Each Other May Risk Depression
By Jennifer Warner

WebMD Medical News

Reviewed by Brunilda Nazario, MD
July 16, 2007 -- Teenaged girls who bond over gripe sessions and sharing each other’s problems may be doing more harm than good emotionally.

A new study shows that friendships based on complaining about each other’s problems may raise anxiety levels among teen girls and potentially increase the risk of depression.

Researchers found that girls who bond by sharing their problems were more likely than boys to develop anxiety and depression as a result of their extended gripe sessions.

“These findings are interesting because girls' intentions when discussing problems may be to give and seek positive support. However, these conversations appear to contribute to increased depression," says Amanda J. Rose, PhD, associate professor of psychology at the University of Missouri-Columbia, in a news release.

Researchers say the study shows talking excessively with another person about problems, such as rehashing and dwelling on negative feelings associated with them, can have both benefits and risks for people dealing with difficult issues.

Risks of Letting It All Out
In the study, published in the Journal of Developmental Psychology, researchers followed a group of 813 third through ninth graders in the Midwest for six months.

The students were questioned about whom they considered their closest friends and what they most often discussed in their conversations.

The results showed that girls who talked excessively about their problems were more likely to report having high-quality close friends. But these girls were also more likely to have symptoms of anxiety or depression, which in turn led to more talking about problems and negative feelings.

But boys of the same age didn’t seem to suffer the same negative emotional effects of letting it all out.

Researchers say sharing problems and dwelling on negative feelings may cause girls to think about problems in a way that is different from boys, and that is more closely linked to emotional problems.

For example, Rose says girls may be more likely than boys to take personal responsibility for their failures.
How does your teen daughter interact with her girlfriends? Talk about it on our Parenting: Preteens and Teenagers message board.
 
SOURCES: Bonis, J. Journal of Developmental Psychology, July 2007; vol 43: pp 1019-1031. News release, American Psychological Association.